Taming Your Crocodiles Practices by Faber Hylke;

Author:Faber, Hylke;
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: SELF-HELP / Personal Growth/Success
Publisher: Dover Publications
Published: 2020-12-20T16:00:00+00:00

LIFE SEEMS TO be in balance whether we are in balance with it or not. Every day starts with a new dawn. The sun rises, flowers open, we reach noon, and soon we’re going into dusk and the rest of the evening. Spring comes after winter, summer after spring, fall after summer, and winter after fall. We are born, we grow up, some of us have children, we live life, a new generation grows up, and we die. The more I study life, the more I am in awe of the balancing act it is and has been for eons.

How can we join life in its balancing act? Giving ourselves fully to this moment helps. Maybe you have experienced dancing, and completely losing yourself in it. Or, perhaps you have been in a conversation with your teammates where you were so much in the moment, engrossed in what you were doing, that time just flew by. Maybe you have taken a walk and been overcome by the beauty of it all. Or, possibly, you have addressed a challenge where you felt that you were carried by some higher power, just knowing what to say and when, with no regrets, right on the mark.

To find balance we need to let go, as a tightrope walker does, of any thinking and action that gets us out of balance. We are in balance, like the tightrope walker, when we become very still on the inside and in harmony with this moment. We are in balance when we play our part completely, without worrying about other people playing theirs. We are like the violinist in an orchestra who becomes her melody, joining the sounds and rhythms around her and within her completely.

Crocodilian thinking interferes with our balance. The crocodile doubts whether we can handle balance. It’s afraid we might lose its precious possession—our emotional identity. To find balance, we need to be willing to give up all our identities. Attachment to our identities keeps us out of balance. If I think I should be a nice person, I put this nice person between me and reality, closing myself off from seeing truth as it is, and curtailing my options to respond only as the “nice” one would. If I believe I should be a competent person, I cut myself off from a vast amount of reality, totally putting my balance at risk, as I won’t easily admit areas where I am not skilled. Believing that I should be perfect, I disappear in the fog of this crocodilian fantasy, and disconnect from life as it is. Life is perfect in its imperfection, just like I am perfect in my imperfection. I am life. Believing that I am separate from life, with my own ideas of who I am, I get out of balance, trying to fix life and myself to comply with my expectations. We all know how well this works. When we believe we are the director of the play of life, we sign up for mayhem.

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